Polyculy-polycula

How is a loving relationship defined? Is it exclusively between two individuals? Is it polyamorous to go beyond that limit? Can people have equal relationships to multiple partners at the same time?

If one's loved ones don't fit within the mold of the nominal nuclear pairs we all expected to find ourselves in, is that something to be ashamed of, or something to hide from your family and friends? Is it ethical to seek something more?

Is it necessary to conform to heteronormative standards to be happy? Can you be happy and not conform to societal, gender, or sexual norms? In a triad, there's one more partner. No more, no less; it doesn't inform who we are or what we are as people, just how we relate. 

Triads can be many things. They can be homosexual, they can involve one femme, two femmes, etc. Like any polycule, they can be as varied as stars in the sky.

One thing that is not a triad: a way to spice up your relationship. Like any relationship, triads are built upon mutual respect and shared goals. 

"Unicorns-r-us". Polyamory groups that rage at couples' privilege. We've seen it all. They ask "can people build an equitable relationship when two out of the three already know each other?" We ask "can people be equals when they are different genders or ages?" 

Equity in a relationship is about boundaries and agreements. Some normal ways for triads to form are:

1. A couple (diad) finds itself expanding

2. A couple that is dating someone separately, and their mutual partner, decides to integrate their four individual relationships

3. Three people organically decide to date

Some might say 1 is unethical, while others might say the least ethical approach here is 2 (if the individual relationships have a driving pressure to unify). We believe that transparency is critical in any relationship!